Thursday, October 21, 2010

Healthy Living For Healthy Dating

I have decided that starting tomorrow I am going to turn over a new leaf, health wise. Starting tomorrow I am going to start eating healthy and working out. So tonight, I ate over 1/2 a package of pillsbury chocolate chip cookies, an entire pizza (small of course) and just polished off the rest of my cherry garcia ice cream! I think that it is going to be a hard road for me considering chocolate is a staple in my diet, so any advice or words of encouragement are very welcome!

P.S. A friend of mine has been helping me set up the whole blog thing, considering I am not computer savvy at all! He has recently started a blog of his own (inspired by my lack of knowledge!) about how to be a successful blogger (which he is). Please take the time to check it out

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Excuse Me Officer

Driving home from work last night I stopped into the grocery store to pick up a couple of things.  My shift ends at 7pm and it takes me about 30 mins to get home.  Normally I'm in no hurry, but Glee starts at 8pm, and I CAN"T miss it.  Of course I end up in the slow line, and it's driving me crazy.

So I leave the store, it's 7:30 and I need to hurry up. I decided to take the highway home to try to avoid city traffic.  I am driving fairly fast when I see those dreaded flashing lights behind me, shit, I look down at my speed, 20 over but I've already hit the brakes.

I see a young male cop coming up to the window, maybe if I play cute......

"License and registration" he's all business.

I hand it over.

"Do you know why I pulled you over"

"I was going a little to fast, I apologize officer" and give him my best smile. He's actually really cute!

"A little fast, try 28 km over the speed limit. AND your license plate is expired" SHIT

"Where were you going in such a hurry" he asks

I think about it and decide to be honest - and play the sympathy card

"I was rushing home to watch glee. I've had a horrible day (not true) and my mind was on work and I didn't notice how fast I was going, I'm really sorry"

"Where do you work?"

"At the hospital, I'm a RN in the emerg department" No wedding ring I notice.

He blows out a breath and I look up innocently through my lashes. Please please please.

"I don't tag nurses, especially emerg nurses, never know when we'll need you" he smirks at me

OMG he's going to let me go! "Thank you so much officer"

"Slow down, I  won' be so nice the next time. And get your plates renewed, don't let me catch you driving around with these plates. I'm really giving you a break here"

"I know, I'll get them renewed tomorrow. Thank you soooo much"

" Have a good night" he says as he's walking away.

I sit there and wait for a minute . He was really cute and was very nice to me.  Maybe I should have asked him for his name or number....

Monday, October 18, 2010

You Can't Tell Me What To Wear

Went out to breakfast yesterday morning with my friend Tracey.  Tracey and I have been friends since grade 10 and are still close.  We live in different cities now, but we try to get together at least once a month, if even just for a breakfast date.

Tracey has one of the best closets I have ever seen!  We are pretty much the same size and I have always loved to borrow clothes from her.

She says to me " I'm getting rid of a bunch of my clothes, do you want them?"

I reply " Ya!!! Why are you getting rid of your clothes?"

Tracey says " Chris wants me to get rid of my clothes, says that they are too revealing. He went through my closet yesterday and started to pull things out and throwing them in the garbage". She says this laughing.

To this I had no response and she seemed to think it was cute and funny.

Chris is a guy that Tracey has been dating for about a month.  Apparently the clothes he was attracted to her in, are now too revealing, anything with a v neck has to go.  Now Tracey has big boobs, and it doesn't matter what she wears, you are going to notice them.  She could wear a frigging parka and you would still see them!

At this point I am disgusted, with both of them. Tracey had always been a very strong, independent woman, in fact I would say she was the dominant one in her last few relationships.  So why is she allowing some guy to dictate what she wears, going so far as to throw her clothes away.  Is he being abusive or protective, is she being stupid or is she just in love (really the same thing!).

I let her know that I don't agree with the way he approached her wardrobe, and she immediately is on the defensive for him.  I am not getting anywhere, conversation dropped.  We small talk about other things, finish breakfast and then we go our own ways.  I think she might actually be mad -- at me!

I have been thinking about this since yesterday.  Am I overreacting by being so disgusted with them?   Are these the things you should change to make someone else happy?  What happened to my friend?  All I know is that you can tell me a lot of things, but you can't tell me what to wear!!!

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Double Standard

Sorry it's been a while since my last post. I went home for thanksgiving last weekend, worked all week, now I'm just getting over the stomach flu. So here is a story from last weekend 🙂

Sunday night of thanksgiving weekend = big night out at the clubs.  Mike is home and we have a big night planned.  Mike was/is my best friend.  We grew up together, he lived two doors down from me, and in fact our parents both still live in the same houses.  I don't get to see Mike very often, he joined the army right out of high school and he lives about 4 hours away from me now.  It's a pretty big deal for us when we get together now.

So let me tell you a little bit about Mike.  He is probably one of the funniest people I have ever met.  He is ALWAYS the center of attention wherever he goes.  He likes to shop and gossip like a girl, but yet is still a guys guy.  He is 6 feet tall, dark hair, blue eyes, very good looking, and a complete pig!  I guess he is what you call a womanizer, but a very funny, sweet, kind one.  The one you don't see coming.

I don't know how he does it but he never fails to find a girl wherever he goes.  He could go to get a hair cut and still come home with a girls number.  But you would never tag him as the type of guy who sleeps around, he's a wolf in sheeps clothes.  And he has never ever dated anyone for longer than 2 months (and he wasn't even faithful then!).

So we go out on Sunday night to a new club that just opened up.  There was 10 of us that went out, mostly people we grew up with and a couple of their significant others.  About 20 minutes after we arrived at the bar, Mike points at a girl and says she is the one.  I was skeptical  as she was with a group of girls, very attractive and had a line of guys trying to talk to her.  But somehow, Mike pulled it off and ended up leaving with her.

This morning we all went out for breakfast together and Mike was telling us about his night.  Everyone had a good laugh - even the girls (including me). Now here's my question, why is it okay if Mike does it but if I were to do the same thing I would be labeled a slut?  I go on a date with 2 guys in a week (with no sex involved), and half my friends think that I'm being outrageous!

So why does society enable men to date/sleep around but not women?  I have been pondering this all day and how I feel about it.  Basically I came to the conclusion that I don't care.  I don't care what people think about me and my dating life.  If people don't like the decisions I am making, than too bad.  I have never intentionally hurt anyone, and it's not like I'm bringing a new guy home every night.  I will continue to meet and date men, and if I want to have sex with them I will!

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Plenty of Fish Out There

It's been a few days and I have heard nothing from Marcelo or Dave.  I guess that's what I get for trying to date two guys at once, or so I've been told.  I wasn't trying to screw anyone over, just trying to keep my options open until I felt comfortable making a commitment.  Oh well, plenty more fish out there.

Speaking of plenty of fish, my girlfriend is trying to talk me into putting a profile on there.  I have a slight problem with meeting people over the internet though.  I'm afraid that I'll meet up with some guy and he won't be anything like he led me to believe, or just plain psycho!  I have only heard the horror stories,  I don't know anyone who was successful with the online dating thing.  I am also a little embarassed to have my profile on there because I don't want to seem desperate, especially if people I work with saw it.  I will definately need to put some more thought into this.

I am back to work now, so I won't have too much time to worry about guys for a few days.  Work has been ridiculous lately.  Who knows, maybe I'll meet some hot doctor 😉

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

When Is It OK To Date Other People?

It was Saturday morning around 10 and I just walked in the door to the phone ringing.  I frantically look for one of my portable phones that are always lost, trying to follow the sound of the ring.  Yes, I locate one and see Dave's number on the screen.  I answer the phone with a very cheery voice, only to have it squashed within the first 30 seconds of our conversation.

Dave quickly states he is just phoning to cancel our date.  He saw me out with another guy and it made him look stupid in front of his friends.  He wasn't going to get played like that from a girl like me.

Wow.  Since when was I in an exclusive relationship?  I thought that you dated people first to see if a connection exists before making a commitment.  I really don't think I did anything wrong, despite the way Dave tried to make me feel.  I wasn't being a big slut, I was simply going out on a few dates trying to find somebody I am compatible with.

Now it looks like the only date I have tonight is with my PVR'd shows, a bag of doritos and a tub of Ben and Jerry's (maybe some cadbury's mint chocolate too 😉 ).

Friday, October 1, 2010

Disaster Date

Big date night last night and it was a disaster!  I was really looking forward to my night out with Marcelo, and now I wished I just stayed home!

First of all he picked me up 30 mins late (I HATE when people are late). We went out to supper at The Keg, which is nice but I don't  like red meat so the selection for me was very scarce.  The conversation was absolutely brutal, there were too many awkward silences to count.  He flirted with our waitress more than he did with me.  Then on our way to the movies he stopped at a bank so I could get him money to "settle up" for supper.

So we are at the movies and I am looking forward to this part of the date so we have an excuse not to talk!  We are standing in line to get our snacks (paying separately of course as we did the tickets) and he puts his hand on my back.  I look over into the next line and there is Dave with a couple of his buddies. He sees me and we say hi, we both look uncomfortable and look away.  I just want to go home right now and go to bed!

Disaster date ends (finally).  Marcelo drives me home and asks if he cane come in (yeah right!).  He leans in for a kiss, I give him my cheek as a block.  I say goodnight and get out of there as quickly as I can.  I'm laying in bed thinking about my disaster date and the look on Dave's face when he saw me with Marcelo.  And the icing on the cake, I just remember that my nieces birthday was yesterday. FML!