Sunday, October 17, 2010

Double Standard

Sorry it's been a while since my last post. I went home for thanksgiving last weekend, worked all week, now I'm just getting over the stomach flu. So here is a story from last weekend 🙂

Sunday night of thanksgiving weekend = big night out at the clubs.  Mike is home and we have a big night planned.  Mike was/is my best friend.  We grew up together, he lived two doors down from me, and in fact our parents both still live in the same houses.  I don't get to see Mike very often, he joined the army right out of high school and he lives about 4 hours away from me now.  It's a pretty big deal for us when we get together now.

So let me tell you a little bit about Mike.  He is probably one of the funniest people I have ever met.  He is ALWAYS the center of attention wherever he goes.  He likes to shop and gossip like a girl, but yet is still a guys guy.  He is 6 feet tall, dark hair, blue eyes, very good looking, and a complete pig!  I guess he is what you call a womanizer, but a very funny, sweet, kind one.  The one you don't see coming.

I don't know how he does it but he never fails to find a girl wherever he goes.  He could go to get a hair cut and still come home with a girls number.  But you would never tag him as the type of guy who sleeps around, he's a wolf in sheeps clothes.  And he has never ever dated anyone for longer than 2 months (and he wasn't even faithful then!).

So we go out on Sunday night to a new club that just opened up.  There was 10 of us that went out, mostly people we grew up with and a couple of their significant others.  About 20 minutes after we arrived at the bar, Mike points at a girl and says she is the one.  I was skeptical  as she was with a group of girls, very attractive and had a line of guys trying to talk to her.  But somehow, Mike pulled it off and ended up leaving with her.

This morning we all went out for breakfast together and Mike was telling us about his night.  Everyone had a good laugh - even the girls (including me). Now here's my question, why is it okay if Mike does it but if I were to do the same thing I would be labeled a slut?  I go on a date with 2 guys in a week (with no sex involved), and half my friends think that I'm being outrageous!

So why does society enable men to date/sleep around but not women?  I have been pondering this all day and how I feel about it.  Basically I came to the conclusion that I don't care.  I don't care what people think about me and my dating life.  If people don't like the decisions I am making, than too bad.  I have never intentionally hurt anyone, and it's not like I'm bringing a new guy home every night.  I will continue to meet and date men, and if I want to have sex with them I will!


Jonnie Boi said...

Well, as long as you're being open and honest with yourself, then it doesn't matter what your friends think. I mean, yes, they're your friends and they will be there to give you advice. However, you're obviously not doing anything wrong, so why are you slut again? You're not! You're being a 28-year-old with a life. Work it girl.

Single Girl said...

It's hard for me to get past what others think of me. I need to let go and make myself happy! I too didn't think I was doing anything wrong, so thank you for your support.

Anonymous said...

I enjoy the lock/key analogy. If a key opens a lot of locks, its a master key. If a lock is opened by a lot of keys, its a bad lock.

Anonymous said...

A key that opens any lock, is a master key. A lock that opens to any key, is a shitty lock.

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